Whoa I come back and there are not one, but two posts for me! I feel special
Anyway, I think you were perhaps hung up a bit too much on one thing that I said. My fault for trying to be brief and to the point, and in result not being descriptive enough for the sake of clarity. Therefore, I will address this a little more elaborately, and then move on to what is the more important issue at hand (at least, in my opinion). I am writing again not to get the last word, as I am sure you will respond to this, and certainly not to win an disagreement... I am writing again because I see you did not understand what I was trying to say.
(31-03-2013, 17:53)tibetan113 Wrote: Yes. Its misspelt and I can admit. Totally my error. Its my handicap which is why I could never butcher words purposely. You will eventually forget the proper spelling of words with such a bad and lazy habit. I personally find it offensive. So this is different than someone not knowing how to write. This person chose to debate with bad grammar. Would you write this way in the real world? Probably not and why? Because people won't take you seriously. So why make it a habit in the first place?
I am pretty sure I addressed this already in the last paragraph of my last post, to which I have not seen you respond at all so perhaps you did not see it...? The answers to these questions would be: 1) no, I would not write this way in the real world or in any world 2) because, even if I wanted to, I am not familiar with it, and it is not of my culture, so my idea of what is communicable is different than what is considered acceptable by those of her culture. Now being brought up the way I was brought up, as I am sure you were, this would be unacceptable to use for communicating, but in her subculture, who knows what her perceptions of the world around her are, and what she was taught, and what her experiences are. Ultimately it is her choice, but we make our choices based on what we know, and what we know is determined by what our experiences are. These are more than likely the reasons why she made a habit of it (because it works in her environment and culture/subculture), and why she chose to write this way to you. I am sure she thought nothing of it and probably would be surprised to find out that it had offended you.
(31-03-2013, 18:14)tibetan113 Wrote: Your point about some of the smartest people not knowing how to spell is irrelevant. My dad has dyslexia and he is very smart. Can't spell for shite. So i know exactly what you mean. But she new how to spell correctly. Its the fact that she chose not to.
In my first post I addressed the issue by demonstrating that
a person's knowledge of a subject (not necessarily the "smartest people" btw, as my example was my family members who are very knowledgeable but I could never say they are the smartest people
)
is not relevant to how a person presents themselves in any manner, is, well, just that. This is exactly what I said: "How old someone is, how they talk, and/or write is very irrelevant to what they know, as much as you'd like to think it is." So, this point was in fact relevant when you can see that this was the point that I was making. It is true that a person's knowledge of a subject is not relevant to how they present themselves. My family members were only examples.
(31-03-2013, 18:14)tibetan113 Wrote: Again, I find that offensive. Just like I would find it offensive if someone who spoke clearly chose to speak with a fake impediment.
I shamed her for her choice not handicap.
Again, please read my last post. I believe that it is cultural, and in no way did she do anything wrong to offend YOU.
But, in addition to my last post, I will say this: the point here is that it mainly seems to come down to is that you were personally offended by it, which you mentioned a few times in your last posts. Taking things less personally--as it clearly has nothing to do with you besides the fact that she was addressing you--will probably make your life much easier. I used to take things very personally, and myself still struggle with it from time to time, so I completely understand how you are feeling. Just remember that it is her choice, and as long as she is not doing wrong to someone, it is not wrong, and it most likely has more to do with cultural differences than it is disrespect of you. I say it is cultural because, as I mentioned earlier, she was exposed to it and probably surrounded by it... (as I know I couldn't write that way even if I chose to! So it is not 100% driven by choice and choice alone).
(31-03-2013, 18:14)tibetan113 Wrote: Also. I never insinuated being queen or lord of grammar. She def lost me on it though .But what did it for me was 9/11 topic she brought up. If you didn't serve during that time or had anything to do with it other than watch the horrid footage on tv, don't bother bringing it up.
That's where she did it for me.
I never said that you claimed to be. You may have forgotten that I actually never addressed that first post of mine to YOU. There was a reason for that (I was addressing multiple people). Also, if you read the context in which I wrote it, you can see that I never said anyone thought they were, as I only said "UNLESS you are the lord or queen of grammar, you really have no right to talk..." which is saying the opposite of what you thought you read (if I may explain, it means you obviously are not, and you have no right to say anything about someone's faults). That was, again, in my first post when I was taking your offense to be of bad grammar and bad spelling, and not of writing style. Therefore, your apparent need to defend yourself is not necessary, really, as I never said or insinuated that you made such a claim. I am sorry that you were feeling that way.
Finally, this is for EVERYONE: I would love to see less nasty, cutting, sarcastic comments on this forum, if we can try. I see us as a sisterhood of support and camaraderie and would like it to stay that way
This was the original and primary reason for my first post. As you may notice, I did not address anyone in particular, which means I was addressing EVERYONE and also the negative digs about age and grammar were only examples. There were many more, and it just needs to stop. I have seen it on other threads as well, and I just decided to finally speak up. That's all.
Please go on to continue the original topic of this thread, as it is an interesting topic of debate! But please everyone, with respect to your breastnexus sisters....