[seli]

This is probably something a lot of you on here feel sometimes: Depressed about boobs.
This is concerning my bf. We've been together 7 or 8 months, and he is super nice and the best guy in the world. I've talked to him about how I feel about my breasts. So he told me he doesn't really look there and that he usually looks down lower (at women), but that doesn't mean he doesn't like breasts. Since I told him how I feel insecure about them, when he says nice things about my body he always makes sure to include my breasts. "I love your breasts." So he says. But in the morning when he's touching me and his hands are roaming all over me, he touches me EVERYWHERE, except my breasts. Or whenever he is getting hot. He'll touch my butt, my legs, my waist, my shoulders, my arms, my back, my stomach, everywhere except my breasts. It makes me feel so awful, like he is repulsed by them and he just has to avoid even touching them. I don't know what to do. I can't tell him how that makes me feel, cause then he'll just touch them to make me feel better even when i know he is being dishonest. And he might say he likes butt and legs, but how can I believe that when he leaves some film laying out with hoards of so called "Buxotic" women, aka big breasted women. God I feel so ugly!!!! What do I do....

[Outofstyle]

I think you have a few options:

a) as he is running his hands over your body, put your hands on top of his, and just move your hands with his as he touches your body wherever he wants. Then you can start guiding him, to your hips your stomach, across your breasts, down your sides, back to tummy and back up to breasts. Rub them a bit with his hands and moan or something, let him know you like it. Massage them for a bit with his hands how you like it (may want to practice on yourself first, to be sure you know how you like it so you can teach him how to do it properly!) and then you can move on to other areas and then start touching him or whatever. Guide him there if he can't make it on his own.

Or

b) Touch your breasts yourself, give them a full grasp and squeeze them, play with your nipples, make sure to moan again as you do this and make it very obvious you are enjoying yourself. He'll probably want to join in and give it a try if he sees that it really turns you on.

He most likely is avoiding touching them because he knows you are self conscious about them. If you told him that you were hating on your butt, I bet he'd avoid touching it too. He is likely trying to read what you want in the wrong way so you should just try to give him a little guidance. I do NOT at ALL think it is because he dislikes your breasts, but he does know you have issues with them - you have kind of labeled them as a no-go, don't like, non-pleasure zone so you want to reverse that.

After trying one of the above, (or before if you'd like), I'd also suggest asking him to suck on your nipples. Then reward him however you see fit

And are you sure buxotic women is a breasts movie? sounds like butt to me...... you could watch it with him to find out if it is all about breasts, don't be envious or upset, just curiously observe and enjoy, and if you see some booby scene that you like you could tell him you want to try that with him!

Also, even if your breasts have not grown yet, start loving them and believing that they will. You can tell him that you think they have grown and tell him to give them a feel, act excited, or act any way you want EXCEPT self conscious about them because that will steer him away from touching them, thinking that it bothers you.


And who knows, perhaps he just doesn't have experience touching breasts and isn't sure how to or if it is even enjoyable (I like idea a for this reason, you get to give him a direct lesson on exactly what you want!). Main thing is to make it known that you enjoy it. This may take a bit of time and you may have to repeat the same encouragement over and over before he starts doing it on his own.

Good luck I really hope at least some of this was helpful!!

[Anastasia916]

He is avoiding them BECAUSE of your insecurity. After reading this it's obvious. I was a tomboy growing up, all my friends were guys mainly, and I've been told I often think like a guy. Might be why I'm a female working in a male dominated industry. So anyway... did he avoid them before you told him about your insecurity? If not, it really sounds to me like he's avoiding them as to not upset you. And if he has videos of girls with big breasts... well I had to learn this myself... but guys like variety. Would you rather him have a flick of it, or actually go out and get a girl on the side like that? Unfortunately males are not wired to be monogamous like females. Especially in all species males are made to spread their seed to as many females as possible to create their offspring. Which is why I believe in most countries the female population outnumbers the male. So, does my husband look at girls that are not like me? ALL THE TIME!!! I'm short, curvy and considered "overweight" for my height. He sometimes looks at what I call sticks. Girls with no hips, butt, boobs, etc. and are majorly skinny. Then I see him looking at girls who are skinny but with big butts and hips, like I was before NBE. Then he will look at girls with big boobs and no butt and then hourglasses. Males have no type. Let me say that again, MALES HAVE NO TYPE! They say they do, they are lying. They like many types. Some might not like a specific type, but they will still like more than one type of girl, make sense? Kind of like me, I've dated tall, short, skinny, fat, and every color of the rainbow. When my husband saw some of my exes through meeting them or through pics, he could not figure out my "type" lol they were all random! Why? Because I go by personality, connection, chemistry, etc. I also find many different type of men sexy.

So let me ask you, if you were to look at a man that was a different type than your man, and he got jealous/insecure... how would that make you feel?

Looking is not cheating. I'm actually bisexual, but I prefer dating men... no offense ladies, but they are less complicated and less emotional, basically less drama.

Now even though I understand men, does not mean I am perfect and do not have my own insecurities. There have been times I got into it with my husband for him looking at other girls, porn, etc. But then I think about it and we talk it over... and I realize... he could be out there with them, he's just using these pictures and porn as an outlet. Cause I guarantee if I was to take off my clothes or even wear something sexy, he's all over me. Hell, most the time I could wear a trash bag and he still would lol. So your man rubbing all over you and wanting you is a sign you have nothing to worry about, so cheer up smile and just enjoy.